Rebecca Solnit’s “Men Explain Things to Me” is so relatable it’s sad. In the essay, she provides evidences of moments when men who know very little about a topic tried to explain said topic, under the assumption that she must also have not known much about the topic, when in fact, she very much did. Her diction made light of the subject in the beginning, but as the essay went on, her words became serious, referencing domestic violence, rape, and thousands of female deaths at the hands of insecure men, afraid that if women have a voice, it will become apparent just how irrelevant they are.
In the first section of the essay, Solnit references the psychological tendency for people to sort information into boxes. This is a universal phenomenon, yet Solnit only attributes it to men. Is she claiming that men are more likely to cling to their boxes, despite opposing evidence? The reason prejudice exists against any group is because people are sorted into boxes that they may or may not fit into. Later in the essay, Solnit addresses the fact that her essay included several generalizations, and she provides evidence of #notallmen, however, it is nearly impossible to discuss the topic of gender inequality at length without making assumptions of a whole gender based on the majority’s experiences.
The second half of the essay focuses on the distribution of power between the sexes. When Solnit address inequality in the justice system, she says, “Violence is one way to silence people, … to assert your right to control over their right to exist.” Where is it said that anyone has the right to control another? This right is assumed to be a man’s privilege, yet why do women have no claim to power. Men’s desires trump women’s needs over and over again, yet progress is agonizingly slow, and every day, women pay the price with their lives.
It begs the question, how did this power imbalance come to be? Evolutionarily, it makes no sense. In many hunter/gatherer societies, men hunted for food while women raised children, but why were these roles assigned? To put it simply, it is because until recent technological advances, men could not care for young children in the same ways women can. A woman could just as easily hunt a deer, but a man cannot provide milk to a baby. Yet as society advanced and these roles became less necessary, discrimination grew and women were forced into a position of inferiority.
All my life, I have been told to stand up for what I believe in and to take ownership of my ideas. We teach women to be on guard against men and to fight back against their arrogance. But what is being taught to young boys about the importance of women’s ideas. Textbooks are still dominated by the history of old, white men, breaking from the mold only for black and women’s history months. Rather than teaching women how to deal with discrimination, why don’t we take preventative measures and teach all children to treat people different from them with fairness, respect, and equality?